ci: try just building arm64, no universal

fix: updated patch was broken on windows

ci: we no longer copy over the macOS patch cpp

feat: switch to Yellow-Dog-Man's fork

Revert "fix: use libc++ on macOS"

fix: use libc++ on macOS

Revert "fix: use clang to build instead of gcc"

fix: use clang to build instead of gcc

feat: build universal macOS bins in a docker container

chore: stop claiming to support x86_64 when github actions wont let me compile for it, and remove the windows asan stuff

fix: include asan binaries in merged artifact

fix: detect asan builds in merge step properly

fix: upload asan prebuilds

feat: add asan option to bundled cmake

feat: add asan windows build